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Why People Plateau

Why People Plateau

It’s true that their are limits to natural abilities and going too far beyond these limits is difficult, but it’s also true that most people never come close to reaching their full potential. We’re going to use some existential and behavioral ideas to show why people plateau, and show how a simple change in philosophy […]

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Love Is A State of Being

Filed in Emotions, Existential Psychology by on September 26, 2014
Love Is A State of Being

Almost everyone makes the error of starting with the object and then relating it back to themselves when thinking about love. They might love certain people, their jobs, a pastime. But when they start with the object they place themselves on precarious ground because if that object were to be lost to them, then love […]

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The Desire For Fame and Narcissism

Filed in Psychoanalysis by on September 26, 2014
The Desire For Fame and Narcissism

Why is it that so many famous people are narcissists? Do they become that way because of all the admiration, all the fawning? Is it due to constantly being the center of attention? This sounds like a plausible explanation, but psychologically speaking it’s much more likely that these people were narcissists before getting famous and […]

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Victim Role

Filed in Abuse, Existential Psychology, Trauma by on September 26, 2014
Victim Role

People who feel like they are constantly being victimized by those around them are in a tough spot. In the first place, they usually were legitimately victimized in a previous relationship where there was a power imbalance. We define victimization as a situation where fundamental human rights are trampled upon and there is little or […]

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Pleasant And Unpleasant Emotions

Filed in Emotions, Existential Psychology by on September 25, 2014
Pleasant And Unpleasant Emotions

Most people have an ambivalent relationship with their emotions, since they can’t imagine life without the pleasant ones yet fantasize about how wonderful life would be without the unpleasant ones. The fact that they are unable to see that emotional engagement is an all or nothing affair, where you either expose yourself to the possibility […]

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Some People Like Being Angry

Some People Like Being Angry

The evolutionary purpose of anger is to make us aware that our interests are being trampled upon while giving us the energy and motivation to make things right. Anger is fiery, it winds us up like a spring, it primes us to act. And when we do act we feel powerful, righteously indignant, like avenging […]

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Let Yourself Be Joyful

Filed in Emotions, Existential Psychology by on September 24, 2014
Let Yourself Be Joyful

An advantage of keeping tight control over your emotions is that you don’t give people ammunition to bring you down if you don’t give any outward sign of being up. You stay under the radar. It’s strange to think of pleasant emotions seeming dangerous, we usually think of unpleasant emotions like fear or anger being the dangerous […]

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