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Happiness And Loss

Filed in Existential Psychology, Grief by on October 24, 2014
Happiness And Loss

Marlene Lauda: “What’s the matter?” Nicki Lauda: “Happiness is the enemy. It weakens you. Puts doubt in your mind. Suddenly you have something to lose.” Marlene Lauda: “When you call happiness an enemy, then it’s too late. Then you’ve already lost.” (From the movie Rush) What a great response by Marlene. The specter of impermanence […]

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Complicated Therapeutic Relationship

Complicated Therapeutic Relationship

The paradox of the professional therapeutic relationship is that in order for it to be effective there has to be emotional intimacy. But this creates role confusion and justified concerns from clients about how to define the relationship. You can’t shy away from this problem or overlook it as not very important. Actually it would […]

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Seeing Flaws Or Seeing Potential In Your Partner

Seeing Flaws Or Seeing Potential In Your Partner

Many people go into a relationship with the underlying goal of changing their partner. They view this person as a project. The plan is to eradicate all of the flaws and problem areas in order to create the ideal specimen. Obviously there’s a lot wrong with this situation. For one thing, flaws and problem areas […]

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Legacy

Filed in Existential Psychology by on October 22, 2014
Legacy

Most people don’t start giving serious consideration to their legacies until they realize they are nearing the end of their lives. All of a sudden it becomes crystal clear that what will remain once they’re gone is their actions and the effect these actions had on others. For better or worse we stay alive in […]

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Freud And Linking The Past To The Present

Filed in Psychoanalysis by on October 21, 2014
Freud And Linking The Past To The Present

Freud believed that dysfunctional patterns of behavior in adulthood were essentially repetitions of particular stages of development in childhood. Like all of his theories, this one was filtered through his overarching sexual theory and he ascribed the various stages of development to erogenous zones like oral, anal, and genital. Basically in his construct the mature, […]

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Pushovers Finish Last

Filed in Psychoanalysis, Self-Actualization by on October 20, 2014
Pushovers Finish Last

You’ve heard the expression ‘nice guys finish last’ but it’s an idiotic one. Nice guys (and girls) do just fine, better than fine, it’s pushovers who finish last. Obviously human language is a monumental leap forward in how organisms communicate but the dark side is that the name we apply to an an experience is […]

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Power From On High

Filed in Abuse, Existential Psychology by on October 16, 2014
Power From On High

In every religion the same situation unfolds, which is that a priestly caste arises and begins to act as intermediary between gods and adherents. This caste becomes highly concerned with crystallizing all aspects of the religion, attempting to halt the organic and natural evolution of thought and practice that spawned that religion in the first […]

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