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Complacency

Filed in Motivation by on August 22, 2014
Complacency

When you’re just starting out at an endeavor you don’t feel complacent, you feel motivated. You have what Thich Nhat Hanh calls beginner’s mind. You’re not afraid to make mistakes or look foolish in front of others, in part because you’re so excited about trying something new and in part because you’re not yet really […]

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Just Show Up

Just Show Up

A cognitive behavioral truth about activities that are intellectually, emotionally, or physically draining is that sometimes contemplating doing them causes you more distress than actually doing them. You can’t stop ruminating about what a pain in the ass something is going to be. You inflate the difficulty in your own mind to a point where […]

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Procrastination

Procrastination

“Procrastination is the thief of time.” – Edward Young People who have a problem with procrastination are well aware of the fact, they understand their lives would be better if they didn’t keep putting things off until the last moment, but they don’t know why they procrastinate. That’s because the forces impelling them are unconscious, […]

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Trust Your Own Insight

Trust Your Own Insight

“It is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been deeply buried.” – Carl Rogers Rogers’ assertion contradicts the way many professionals view the therapeutic relationship. Their mentality is probably due to the lasting impact of psychoanalysis. If as it posits most of a person’s […]

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Relax Your Inflexible Standards

Filed in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy by on August 20, 2014
Relax Your Inflexible Standards

If you want to be a lot happier in the short-term and have more success in the long-term relax your inflexible standards. The faulty thinking pattern we are talking about here is seeing the world in terms of words like ‘should’, ‘must’, ‘ought to’ and ‘have to’. When you think this way you invariably end […]

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People Letting You Down

Filed in Psychoanalysis by on August 20, 2014
People Letting You Down

If you’ve noticed that most of your human relationships start out really promising but end in hostility the first thing to realize is that the common denominator is you. As much as you want to blame everybody else your own thinking and behavior probably have a lot to do with all these splits. Psychologically speaking, […]

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Give Your Anxiety A Personality

Filed in Anxiety, Narrative Therapy by on August 19, 2014
Give Your Anxiety A Personality

Narrative therapy separates the problem from the person in order to get some perspective, viewing the problem objectively from a distance, as a distinctly separate entity from the person experiencing it. This idea works particularly well when thinking about existential anxiety since like we have written in many other places anxiety is the threat of […]

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