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Be Mindful Of Your Thoughts Words And Actions This Thanksgiving

Be Mindful Of Your Thoughts Words And Actions This Thanksgiving

What happens to a lot of people is that they kind of dread seeing relatives around Thanksgiving, not just because of old resentments and hostilities, but also because even when they had generally positive relationships with these relatives it can be disconcerting to have everyone treat them and relate to them in ways they feel […]

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Tell Your Partner What You Want

Filed in Couples, Existential Psychology by on November 26, 2014
Tell Your Partner What You Want

It sounds so obvious, to just be honest in your relationship and tell your partner what you want, to say what your needs are, but a lot of people find it hard to do. They keep this information to themselves, and then resentment and hostility start to bubble up. Your partner can’t read your mind, […]

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What To Do If You Secretly Feel Worthless And Unlovable

Filed in Abuse, Behavioral Psychology, Psychoanalysis by on November 26, 2014
What To Do If You Secretly Feel Worthless And Unlovable

If you were emotionally or physically abused as a child you may have come to secretly believe that you were worthless and unlovable. Although you repressed these painful feelings, where by now they only flit at the edge of your conscious awareness, they still exert a powerful influence over your behavior. This is because, if […]

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Simple Joy

Filed in Mindfulness by on November 26, 2014
Simple Joy

I was leisurely walking to catch a bus, snapping some photos along the way, when Barbara, from the picture above, shouted out to me, “Hey! Take my picture! A Thanksgiving picture!” As an aside for the all the burgeoning photographers out there nervous about approaching people for portrait shots, I’m starting to notice that if […]

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Give Your Body The Gift Of Stillness And Your Mind The Gift Of Clarity

Filed in Existential Psychology, Yoga by on November 25, 2014
Give Your Body The Gift Of Stillness And Your Mind The Gift Of Clarity

Near the end of class, while we were all lying in final savasana, our yoga teacher Miranda told us, “Give your body the gift of stillness and your mind the gift of clarity.” I told her afterwards I thought it was a great line and she happily responded that she came up with it in […]

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Subjectivity Of Abusers

Filed in Abuse, Existential Psychology by on November 25, 2014
Subjectivity Of Abusers

We have written about how most abusers are deeply narcissistic, meaning that their worldviews are riddled with subjectivity. All of our worldviews are riddled with subjectivity actually since we are all subjects filtering objective reality through our own sets of perceptions and experiences, but the difference is that people we would term psychologically healthy are […]

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Positive Side Of Obsession

Filed in Existential Psychology, Self-Actualization by on November 25, 2014
Positive Side Of Obsession

The word obsession has mostly negative connotations. We picture a crazy stalker, a workaholic, ritualistic hand washing, or a barrage of unwanted thoughts that won’t go away. But there’s a positive side of obsession too. Dedicating all your attention and energy to a discipline is the only way to achieve mastery over it, and this […]

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