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Trust Your Own Insight

Trust Your Own Insight

“It is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been deeply buried.” – Carl Rogers Rogers’ assertion contradicts the way many professionals view the therapeutic relationship. Their mentality is probably due to the lasting impact of psychoanalysis. If as it posits most of a person’s […]

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Relax Your Inflexible Standards

Filed in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy by on August 20, 2014
Relax Your Inflexible Standards

If you want to be a lot happier in the short-term and have more success in the long-term relax your inflexible standards. The faulty thinking pattern we are talking about here is seeing the world in terms of words like ‘should’, ‘must’, ‘ought to’ and ‘have to’. When you think this way you invariably end […]

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People Letting You Down

Filed in Psychoanalysis by on August 20, 2014
People Letting You Down

If you’ve noticed that most of your human relationships start out really promising but end in hostility the first thing to realize is that the common denominator is you. As much as you want to blame everybody else your own thinking and behavior probably have a lot to do with all these splits. Psychologically speaking, […]

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Give Your Anxiety A Personality

Filed in Anxiety, Narrative Therapy by on August 19, 2014
Give Your Anxiety A Personality

Narrative therapy separates the problem from the person in order to get some perspective, viewing the problem objectively from a distance, as a distinctly separate entity from the person experiencing it. This idea works particularly well when thinking about existential anxiety since like we have written in many other places anxiety is the threat of […]

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You Are Special

You Are Special

In my experience two aspects of the counseling relationship that start to eat away at clients when they forge closer, more meaningful connections with their counselors are that they have to pay for sessions and that they are not the only people their counselors see. On the surface these concerns seem ridiculous because obviously everyone […]

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Emotions Are Not Facts

Filed in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotions by on August 14, 2014
Emotions Are Not Facts

If you often find yourself carried away by your emotions, behaving in a way that makes you regret the consequences later, it can be useful to come to the philosophical realization that emotions are not facts. They can certainly seem like facts when we are gripped by them though. The funny thing is that for […]

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Existential Loneliness

Filed in Existential Psychology by on August 14, 2014
Existential Loneliness

Loneliness is an oppressive state. You know because you’ve been there, just like everybody else. We usually think of loneliness as meaning a lack of human connection but in an existential sense it runs much deeper than that and is a fundamental part of modern human existence. Existential loneliness arises from not having a clear […]

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