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Self-Esteem

Self-Esteem

When you make your self-esteem dependent on the opinions of others you put yourself in a precarious position. These opinions are always subject to change, and if they plummet your self-esteem plummets right along with them. This situation also makes you easier to manipulate, more malleable, since you become willing to say or do things […]

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Playing Psychological Games

Filed in Existential Psychology by on October 30, 2014
Playing Psychological Games

When people are playing psychological games with you it puts you in a tough spot because they have a clear agenda, a clear view of the field, whereas you might not. And we all get so used to responding to the contentĀ of human communication. You might have an inkling that something is off, but you […]

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Conditional Questioning and Fear

Conditional Questioning and Fear

Conditional questioning is a useful therapeutic tool when you’re feeling stuck, you could say due to a client’s resistances but it’s probably better to say due to the understandable inability to picture a life different from one’s current reality. The conditional question asks you to imagine if things were a certain way, you don’t have […]

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Threats Work But At A Steep Price

Threats Work But At A Steep Price

From a behavioral point of view most threats are attempts to wield the power of negative reinforcement. The content of the threat has an aversive embedded within it, something the organism wants to avoid. It knows that behaving as the ‘trainer’ desires will do the trick, keeping whatever the threat is from turning into a […]

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Take Care Of Your Relationship

Filed in Couples, Existential Psychology by on October 27, 2014
Take Care Of Your Relationship

Think of the objects in your life that you are most careful around, the things towards which you are purposefully gentle, almost reverent. Whatever they are, you need to think of your romantic relationship as first place on the list, treating it even more carefully than you treat those objects. Actually it’s utter insanity that […]

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Equanimity

Filed in Evolutionary Psychology, Yoga by on October 27, 2014
Equanimity

One area where the philosophy of yoga can definitely be applied to mental health is that yoga stresses equanimity, meaning calm and composure regardless of external circumstances, believing it is absolutely essential on the life journey. Equanimity doesn’t mean ceasing to feel things or detaching yourself from life. But it does mean quickly recognizing changes […]

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Happiness And Loss

Filed in Existential Psychology, Grief by on October 24, 2014
Happiness And Loss

Marlene Lauda: “What’s the matter?” Nicki Lauda: “Happiness is the enemy. It weakens you. Puts doubt in your mind. Suddenly you have something to lose.” Marlene Lauda: “When you call happiness an enemy, then it’s too late. Then you’ve already lost.” (From the movie Rush) What a great response by Marlene. The specter of impermanence […]

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