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Mind Reading And The Narcissism Of Abusers

Filed in Abuse, Existential Psychology by on November 21, 2014
Mind Reading And The Narcissism Of Abusers

One of the hallmarks of abuse is that the abuser expects the people around him to know exactly what he’s thinking and gets upset when they don’t. He’ll often react in an abusive fashion, especially towards those close to him like familial relations, probably because it’s safer to do so than in the social environment […]

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Curating Your Work Is A Key To Success

Filed in Existential Psychology by on November 21, 2014
Curating Your Work Is A Key To Success

Whether we’re talking about photography, writing, or any other creative endeavor, what you don’t let people see is as important as what you do let them see. More is not always better, and in fact sometimes it’s a lot worse. This happens all the time with writing, where some feel compelled to fill up the […]

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Afraid To Succeed And Afraid To Fail

Afraid To Succeed And Afraid To Fail

If you were abused by your primary caregivers you may have been told so many times that you were bad, rotten, worthless, deficient, untalented, unlovable, that you came to believe it all, identifying yourself with these traits. This situation sets up a strange psychic duality, a sort of unconscious battleground between your true Self, the […]

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Gaining Power From The Group Losing Power Because Of The Group

Filed in Existential Psychology, Self-Actualization by on November 20, 2014
Gaining Power From The Group Losing Power Because Of The Group

Although it’s not usually consciously conceptualized as such, the psychological reason to identify with any group, be it a clique, team, religion, nation, or any other entity, is to augment power. By yourself you’re small, insignificant, exposed, but by being part of a larger entity you expand the boundaries of that small Self, feeding off […]

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Dealing With Disruptive People

Filed in Behavioral Psychology by on November 20, 2014
Dealing With Disruptive People

The most important thing to understand when you’re dealing with a disruptive person is that you might think you’re in the position of authority in the relationship, but from a behavioral point of view you’re the subject and the disruptive person is the trainer, using negative reinforcements to get a desired response. The negative reinforcement being utilized […]

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Behavior Over Feelings

Filed in Couples, Existential Psychology by on November 19, 2014
Behavior Over Feelings

Many rationalize harmful words and actions towards the people they are closest to by telling themselves they’re only being authentic, that it wouldn’t be right to hide how they’re really feeling, that they’re just being honest and honesty is important. But the question is, how are you going to let a feeling, something ephemeral and […]

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High Standard Of Living And Existential Vacuum

Filed in Existential Psychology by on November 19, 2014
High Standard Of Living And Existential Vacuum

There’s a powerful societal expectation that increasing material wealth is the key to happiness and fulfillment. But we only need look around us to see the fallacy of this notion. In the West most people enjoy a standard of living beyond what previous generations could have imagined but they’re not happy. If you think that […]

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