Narrative Therapy

Problem With The Favorable Dominant Narrative

Problem With The Favorable Dominant Narrative

Narrative therapists are concerned with deconstructing the rich tapestry of stories that make up social reality in order to help clients become aware that the way they see themselves, what we would call their dominant narrative, is not necessarily indicative of who they really are. There are usually a multitude of data points to contradict […]

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Have I Told You Lately That I Love You

Filed in Couples, Narrative Therapy by on February 14, 2014
Have I Told You Lately That I Love You

Valentines day is a manufactured holiday but the cultural pressure is so intense that completely ignoring the hubbub is not really an option. So why not go the other direction and use the day as a chance to deepen and strengthen your relationship? What you can do for your partner, and what all good counselors […]

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Negative Self-Talk

Filed in Abuse, Narrative Therapy, Self-Actualization by on February 12, 2014
Negative Self-Talk

Negative self-talk is the abusive running conversation you have going on with yourself about yourself. We call it abusive because you put yourself down, make yourself feel less, and characterize yourself as having negative traits, of being basically worthless. Sometimes you make these comments out loud but they are also a jumble of thoughts and […]

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Taking Down Depression

Filed in Depression, Narrative Therapy by on February 12, 2014
Taking Down Depression

If you have been struggling with depression, one of your best chances to get better is to start treating it as an adversary, as an enemy you will have to vanquish if you don’t want it to destroy all that you hold dear. When you think and talk in terms of ‘I’m depressed’, what you […]

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Telling Your Story As The Expert

Filed in Narrative Therapy by on January 30, 2014
Telling Your Story As The Expert

Most therapists, regardless of the psychological theories they use, consider themselves to be experts, and rightfully so. The problem with this attitude is that as experts they feel that they are the ones with the access to the knowledge and wisdom that will help their clients improve. The role of the client in this context […]

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Couples Teaming Up Against Conflict

Filed in Couples, Narrative Therapy by on January 30, 2014
Couples Teaming Up Against Conflict

Probably the most useful concept from narrative therapy is the idea of separating the problem from the person, in effect saying “You are not the problem. The problem is the problem.” Weight is instantly lifted from your shoulders and you feel lighter, that there is a way out of the mess you are in. Instead […]

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Zergon 6

Filed in Narrative Therapy by on May 7, 2013
Zergon 6

We think and behave in certain ways and those around us tell stories about it based on what is objectively true but also on their perceptions. These narratives can have a tremendous impact on our lives. If we believe them we start to internalize the external narratives and the stories become us, which in turn […]

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