Psychoanalysis

People Who Really Want To Change The World

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Many who consciously believe they want to change the world are unconsciously narcissists who are really only interested in having their narcissism, their delusions of grandeur, confirmed and glorified.

So the first and most important difference between people who really want to change the world and narcissists who believe they want to change the world is that people who really want to change the world place the psychological emphasis on the change itself while narcissists who believe they want to change the world place the psychological emphasis on expanding their egos, on using their supposed world changing thoughts and actions as a means to the true end of proving the validity of their narcissistic world orientation.

Therefore when it comes down to the brass tacks, people who really want to change the world don’t need or want to do it completely by themselves and will embrace help since what they’re primarily interested in is the end game. Meanwhile narcissists who believe they want to change the world do want to do it by themselves since any outside help casts doubt on their delusions of grandeur, on their power, on their supposed omnipotence, on their elevated intelligence and abilities, on all of the exagerrated traits of the idealized self-image they’re trying to cultivate.

If we take a look at the current slate of presidential candidates there’s only one candidate who has actively and consistently voiced the idea that it’s impossible to bring about change alone, that we’re all needed to make the progressive movement work, which shows from the psychoanalytic view that this one candidate, Bernie Sanders, is the least narcissistic of the bunch and therefore the most fit for the highest office in the land. How can a leader be effective when that leader is more interested in power, in confirming delusions of grandeur, than in being an important part of the whole in bringing about real change around the important issues that affect us all? People who really want to change the world don’t need to be the sole movers and shakers. Narcissists who believe they want to change the world but really want to amass power and stroke their own narcissistic world orientations do need to be the sole movers and shakers and therefore don’t get much of anything done.

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