Existential Psychology

Patience And Complacency

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Complacency is the evil twin of patience. The belief that you’re just being patient is the perfect rationalization for the complacent attitude, letting you off the hook from the intellectual, emotional, and physical strain of kicking it into high gear. You can tell yourself you’re working hard enough and that things will eventually come together.

The patient attitude is absolutely essential for your well-being when you’re striving towards your goals but the difference between it and complacency is that you are striving, that your underlying state is one of activity and movement even though your psychic state is one of tranquility and acceptance.

This is sort of the yin and yang of self-actualization, the idea that you can be happy with where you are while simultaneously¬† trying to get to somewhere else. You can best cultivate patience not by tolerating where you are because you know it’s a necessary step to reach the destination but by appreciating where you are because you know each step in the journey is equally important.

Complacency means that your growth has ceased to be an important factor in your life, patience means that your growth still is an important factor but that you’re not going to let your desire to grow get in the way of your ability to thrive right now as you are. That’s the big difference between the states of complacency and patience and the fastest way for you to tell which one you are currently inhabiting.