All posts tagged "fighting"
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Quick to Point Out Problems, Quick to Apologize, and Quick to Forgive
The idea of the perfect relationship is a myth. Actually the ones that look perfect on the surface...
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Always Having To Be Right
Forget for a second about how exasperating and exhausting it is to deal with a romantic partner who...
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Pick Your Battles
Good counselors learn that they need to moderate the frequency of their comments during sessions. It’s not just...
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Couples Seeing The Bigger Picture During Fights
Sometimes an issue looms so large that all else is obscured, and both partners find it very important...
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Open Instead Of Defensive
Not getting defensive in the face of criticism is a hard thing to do and in the context...
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Couples Teaming Up Against Conflict
Probably the most useful concept from narrative therapy is the idea of separating the problem from the person,...
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Conflict Is Okay
Most of us have an ambivalent attitude towards conflict in our romantic relationships. Some of us try to...
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Repair
When a couple argues one partner is often so intent on besting the other that subtle attempts to...
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Emotional Bank Account
The psychologist John Gottman has an interesting metaphor to explain why some couples thrive while others disintegrate. He...
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Changing Conflict Mentality
I watched a comedy special last night by Bill Burr, and it was hilarious but also a reminder ...
