Motivation

No More Excuses

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Some good motivation, although initially painful to accept, is that if you’re not making time for it then it’s not important to you, and no amount of clever excuses or rationalizations will change that bottom line fact. We make time for the things we care about, although often what we care about doesn’t further our lives or well-being in any discernible way.

On an unconscious level we believe we’re helping ourselves by coming up with myriad reasons for why we’re not doing the things we know are in our best interests, but of course really we’re hindering ourselves by stopping our growth before it has even had the chance to start.

If you want to give yourself the best chance at self-actualization the first step is to clear the brambles from your path by taking up the mantra of ‘no more excuses‘. You have to realize that there is a 1:1 correlation between how you use your time and the things that are most important to you. Track your activities for a week and write down how much time you devote to each of them so you can decide for yourself whether the activities at the top of your list are serving or hindering you. Remember that what is important to you right now is not necessarily what is best for your growth and future happiness, and seeing that stark reality in the form of a list with actual blocks of time might be the jolt you need to reprioritize, setting yourself up for a more meaningful and fulfilling life.

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