Common Barriers To Successfully Quitting Or Cutting Back On A Drug
So you’ve decided the disadvantages of your drug of choice have come to outweigh the advantages, that the harm to your body, your relationships, your professional development, your finances, your growth as a person, etc. has come to outweigh the pleasure and other perceived benefits derived from indulging. In the motivational interviewing paradigm you’ve already moved along the stages of change from pre-contemplation through contemplation and now find yourself somewhere between preparation and action. You’ve worked through a lot of ambivalence along the way to get to this point, through a lot of resistance and rationalization that can be likened to a little devil on your shoulder whispering comforting platitudes in your ear.
You’ve already seen a lot of movement, even though you and those around you probably don’t recognize the work you’ve done as movement since the process has mainly been internal. From the outside not much has changed, you’re still consuming the drug you’d like to quit, after all, and you’re still frequently facing the various consequences of your consumption. But your psychology has changed, even if your behavior hasn’t followed yet, and that’s something to hang your hat on, something to be proud of as you steel yourself for the next phase of the journey, the phase where you move from thinking about quitting or preparing to quit to actually quitting or cutting back.
There are many common barriers to successfully quitting or cutting back on a drug once you’ve moved to the action phase. The barriers we want to talk about here are misinterpreting withdrawal symptoms as inherent personality traits, falling victim to friendly peer pressure, and overweighting the significance of setbacks.
Misinterpreting Withdrawal Symptoms
The thing to understand about withdrawal symptoms is that whatever the intoxicating effects of your drug of choice are, the withdrawal symptoms will be their opposites. You have a special relationship to your drug of choice for a reason. Those intoxicating effects do something for you that they don’t do for others who try that drug but don’t become addicted. On the backside, withdrawal, those withdrawal symptoms are bound to hit you harder too. And for many addicts what comes to happen is that they feel they need the intoxicating effects of their drug to ward off their ‘true’ selves, selves that are repressed or changed but come out in full force without the drug. So people erroneously equate their withdrawal symptoms with who they are as people, they misinterpret those withdrawal symptoms as inherent personality traits. The key during the withdrawal process, which might last days or weeks depending on the drug, is to consciously challenge that wrong perception, to remember that how you’re feeling during withdrawal is a symptom of withdrawal not a symptom of who you are. Until the drug is completely flushed out of your system and you start building a real life for yourself you can’t really know who you are.
Falling Victim To Friendly Peer Pressure
We all like to think that our friends have our backs, and of course in many ways they do. But if you find yourself in a social group where everyone gets together to consume alcohol or drugs on a regular basis they’re going to be quite resistance to your trying to quit. The biggest reason why is unconscious, it’s that they secretly worry they have a problem too and you trying to quit throws a light on their own insecurities. Their solution is to try to drag you back into the mix, usually in a friendly way with light teasing or bargaining, for example. Just remember that while they probably do care about you and your happiness, in this case their behavior is not about you but about them, it’s about trying to maintain the integrity and supposed rightness of their own current style of living, which is cast into doubt when a member of the group seeks to modify an agreed upon behavior.
Overweighting The Significance Of Setbacks
Experiencing setbacks, in other words faltering during the process of quitting by taking the drug again, is so common an occurrence that it should be considered the norm not the exception. The real problem is that people tend to get down on themselves when these setbacks occur, to the point where they decide the whole attempt was a failure before sliding back into their old familiar relationship with their drug of choice. But a setback should be considered just that, a temporary blip on the road of recovery. The attitude has got to be non-judgmental acceptance around faltering followed by renewed commitment to the plan. A setback does not connote failure, it connotes a setback.