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It was Karen Horney who defined basic anxiety as helplessness in a world perceived as hostile. If you have been experiencing distress from feelings of helplessness in some aspect of your life, it’s worth looking at your early childhood to see whether you can make the connection between your anxiety now and having felt helpless against a hostile world then.

The reason to make this connection is that your anxiety at that time was warranted, you really were more or less helpless, dependent on your primary caregivers and other authority figures for your sustenance and survival. If you were being treated badly, forced to suffer through traumatic or abusive experiences, there was very little you could do to extricate yourself from the situation.

But things have changed now, even if the identical feeling of basic anxiety, the feeling you experienced in childhood, makes it seem like they haven’t. You have a lot more power to influence your surroundings than you think. You didn’t then but you do now. What were once real constraints might now be self-imposed constraints, learned helplessness.

As willing animals, the feeling of helplessness is difficult to bear under any circumstances, especially difficult when conditions are hostile. Make sure your perception of the situation represents reality though, that you really are powerless in the face of hostile conditions rather than just feeling that way due to real helplessness in similar situations when you were younger.

Greetings I'm Michael, the owner of Evolution Counseling and the author of all the articles on this site. I got my master's degree from Seattle University in community mental heath counseling and have committed myself to advancing my knowledge of psychology and to evolving my own philosophical system ever since. In addition to the content on this site I offer online coaching using Skype. If you'd like to learn more about it click on the online coaching tab or if you think you'd like to set up a session send me an email at evolve@evolutioncounseling.com.

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